I just realized I did not post an update to the Dennis Challenge.

I do apologize for my delay. My life has been incredibly turned upside down. Mainly my own doing by listening to my heart who refuses to give up. Anyhow an update to the Dennis Challenge.

As predicted, it did not work. In fact all it did was lead me to not find him enticing even more. He lasted about 2 days of "attempting" to get me to fall in love with him. hahaha 

It consisted of "Hey Baby" texts and messages on Facebook. Yup, that will win ya right there. NOT!

He tried to hit on me while his darling (and hot) son helped me and my children move. Forcing a kiss on me doesn't win you any favor points either, especially when you KNOW I was moving in with another man.  Geeze. MEN make no sense.

But that is the update on the Dennis Challenge. I hope those who do read this are still around and that you have a great day!

Trying to make me fall in love

I was talking to Dennis last night and he told me that if I gave him a week, he would melt my heart and make me fall in love with him. I accepted that challenge and wished him luck. So far, nothing. I got an @heart on Facebook telling me good morning and that was all.  So far, he isn't doing so well LOL.

There is someone out there for me just as there is someone out there for everyone. Question is, how long do I need to wait for fate to help guide us together?

Not exactly sure I fully trust in fate anymore....however, it did step in for my friend and a random message from a guy led to their marriage 3 years later. So, giving up is not an option. It can happen to anyone.

~Rie~

Sorry for the hiatus

Well, it has been a while since I have posted. Life got in the way LOL. I have been busy spending some much needed quality time with my children and granddaughter. I also had two classes for this module for school. Whew! What a ride, huh?

On the dating front, I haven't had any communication from anyone other than Dennis. I consider him just a friend for certain reasons; however, he is a sweet man who I am curious about. Who knows, maybe I will allow him to take me out sometime.

I have pretty much stopped talking to Richard. There is just something about his that is not adding up. He is "hot" and then he is "cold." I do not like mind games. So, he is for sure out of the running.

I have decided that if I get asked out, I should truly entertain the idea and just go for the hell of it. Why not right? I typically do not accept if I do not have the money for back up because I am not sure how dating works in this day and age.

I think I am giving up on the internet dating scene as most I have come across simply are fake. I am 43, I do not want to waste my time. Although I am considering subscribing to eHarmony just to see if it works. I have to find the extra money to do it as I am truly curious if it does.

If you have gotten this far, I thank you. I am signing off as I have some chores around the house to do today. Take care!

Marie

Quiet lately

It has been really quiet lately. A few random texts from Dennis, Richard, and Kevin. Mainly saying hi and telling me how cute I look in my new glasses. Life has been crazy busy around here and I have not put much effort into trying to find a relationship.

Is it really so hard to overlook the body and get to know the person on the inside? I am reminded daily on just how superficial men can be. I guess we women can be as well. I simply want someone who wants to see me smile, who wants nothing more than to be happy with me and my children and who never wants to leave.

I can handle the verbal rejection, I cannot handle the physical rejection. It truly hurts. Yes, I know I can change that by changing my appearance but honestly, why would I want someone who does not love me for who I am as a human being rather than how I make them look?

Guess that is the question of the day....Let's see if next time something interesting has happened in my life ;-)  Until next time!

Text Messages

In today's world, communication is rarely by telephone anymore. It is email or mostly text message on your cell. I love text messaging, mainly because I am either working, doing schoolwork, or trying to spend some quality time with my children. I typically have my phone on do not disturb or silent.

With that said, this is where Richard comes into play. He and I began talking on Plenty of Fish. He was interesting, educated, and kind. Granted, these still hold true for him even after our meetings. He is a tricky man though. We met over a year ago and have been to the movies a couple times. We get along well and have a lot of the same interests.

One would think things would progress between the two of us right? WRONG. He will text me out of the blue to tell me he is thinking about me, set up "dates" and then not show or change his mind at the last minute. Essentially, "holds the carrot in front of the rabbit" and never moves forward. Once things look as though they will, he backs out and says he feels uncomfortable. This typically happens when I begin to ask get to know you type questions.

I back off and stop texting. I am not chasing after him, mainly because I am alone, not desperate. It can go months before I get the hook dangled in front of me again only for the same situation to occur. I have determined that this "relationship" will remain as random friendship.

I am not someone's last resort. I want the romance, little surprises, love, caring, and most of all respect that I offer to my partner. If they cannot offer the same, that is their problem and I am not going to make it mine!

Time to toss the fish back?

The Dating Sites

I am a member of several sites. To name a few:

• Plenty of Fish
• Zoosk
• Meet Me
• eHarmony
• Match

The most hits I have received are from Zoosk and Plenty of Fish. Zoosk, you only get one chance to read and respond to a message unless you want to pay to be a member. I tried a 3 mo subscription. Once I paid, the responses mostly stopped. So I decided to save my money.

Plenty of Fish is nice and I have had some decent responses. This led to me meeting with Richard (I will refer to him as Dick) in December 2012. We will discuss him on the next post.

Back on subject, I have not yet been asked for me to sign up in order to be able to answer or read posts on PoF; however, if you upgrade it states you will be more available to be viewed by members and it increases your chances of meeting someone.

I am considering a 3 mo subscription to eHarmony just to see what comes of it. Right now they are running a special of only 9.95 a mo if you pay for 3 mo. It is a tough decision because the money can be used elsewhere.

My "fake" filter has become very fine tuned based on cues provided by the "man". If the person cannot spell a simple word a red flag will go off. Other commonalities are "I'm away on business in South Africa" "I am considering moving to Utah from England" and sadly, even the "I'm currently deployed" has come up a couple times.

It is always better to be safe than sorry in my mind and I am beginning to think that although it is great to protect me from people who want to use me for fraudulent means it is also keeping me from becoming a girlfriend thanks to the protective wall I have built.

Well, that is just some information on the dating sites I have frequented. I will discuss some of the men I have encountered on the next post!

Have a great day and remember, no matter what size we are, we ARE worthy of love and respect! In the words of my childhood friend "Life: Bring it!"

Just because I am large does not mean I am desperate.

Well, internet dating is an interesting concept. It opens up a whole world of men. Some are fictional and some are real. It can be a lot of fun when someone begins to flirt with you. Then they see what your body looks like. I am not talking nude, just a standard picture. Most times, they will stop talking altogether as if the fat is what defines you as a person. Please! It isn't even close to who I am! Get to actually know me as a person not a ball of blubber.

If the guy doesn't stop talking, they will typically fall into one of the three categories below:

1. Scam artists: They will sweet talk you and tell you anything to get you to "fall" for them. Once they think they have you hooked, they will go overseas on business typically and something devastating will happen. I have been told they were mugged and the money from payroll was taken, their only daughter is desperately ill and they need money to get her to the hospital, or they need money for a plane ticket to come back to the states. Sorry dear scam artist, I was never hooked enough to fall for it.
2. Ex-cons, gang members, drug addicts, etc. Now, keep in mind that I can believe that someone can turn their life around. In fact, I am 100% for it! What I am not fond of, is they usually want a "mom" or a "sugar mama". Most times, they do not have a job or a car and they want you to pick them up and take them everywhere on your dime. I do not mind paying for a date now and then but I am not a bank nor will I ever be.
3. Married.....need I say more? Being divorced twice due to unfaithful men, I could not even imagine hurting another woman in that way. The pain is tremendous and it is simply wrong! 

Despite the situations above, I still have hope that there is someone out there for me. We just haven't found each other just yet or the circumstances are not optimal. As Snow White once said, "one day my prince will come", or at least I truly hope so. 

A Brief History

This is my first post about my new venture. I am overweight and have been for most of my life due to my own negligence and laziness. However, does this make me undesirable? Unwanted? Gross to men?

I have decided instead of encouraging a life of depression and loneliness, I am going to try dating. Beginning with internet dating sites. After all is this not the new way to find your soul mate?

Let me provide a little bit of background to what has brought me here today. I have been married and divorced twice. The first marriage lasted 14 years and 3 wonderful children. It ended after many years of me being unhappy. The second marriage lasted nearly 7 years and 1 child. He had 2 children from a previous marriage that I have unofficially "adopted" even after the divorce.

My second marriage ending was the hardest as he was my childhood sweetheart and he decided that he did not want to be married to a fat woman any longer. He left me for a thinner woman. That relationship did not last a year. He and I tried to work things out again. After living together for a year and things going well, I was blindsided when he decided that I again was not what he wanted and choose my ex-friend from high school as his new girlfriend.  Yup, she only weighed 100 pounds.

That is a quick rundown of my background. Let's begin the fun of dating, or the lack thereof....