The Dating Sites

I am a member of several sites. To name a few:

• Plenty of Fish
• Zoosk
• Meet Me
• eHarmony
• Match

The most hits I have received are from Zoosk and Plenty of Fish. Zoosk, you only get one chance to read and respond to a message unless you want to pay to be a member. I tried a 3 mo subscription. Once I paid, the responses mostly stopped. So I decided to save my money.

Plenty of Fish is nice and I have had some decent responses. This led to me meeting with Richard (I will refer to him as Dick) in December 2012. We will discuss him on the next post.

Back on subject, I have not yet been asked for me to sign up in order to be able to answer or read posts on PoF; however, if you upgrade it states you will be more available to be viewed by members and it increases your chances of meeting someone.

I am considering a 3 mo subscription to eHarmony just to see what comes of it. Right now they are running a special of only 9.95 a mo if you pay for 3 mo. It is a tough decision because the money can be used elsewhere.

My "fake" filter has become very fine tuned based on cues provided by the "man". If the person cannot spell a simple word a red flag will go off. Other commonalities are "I'm away on business in South Africa" "I am considering moving to Utah from England" and sadly, even the "I'm currently deployed" has come up a couple times.

It is always better to be safe than sorry in my mind and I am beginning to think that although it is great to protect me from people who want to use me for fraudulent means it is also keeping me from becoming a girlfriend thanks to the protective wall I have built.

Well, that is just some information on the dating sites I have frequented. I will discuss some of the men I have encountered on the next post!

Have a great day and remember, no matter what size we are, we ARE worthy of love and respect! In the words of my childhood friend "Life: Bring it!"

Just because I am large does not mean I am desperate.

Well, internet dating is an interesting concept. It opens up a whole world of men. Some are fictional and some are real. It can be a lot of fun when someone begins to flirt with you. Then they see what your body looks like. I am not talking nude, just a standard picture. Most times, they will stop talking altogether as if the fat is what defines you as a person. Please! It isn't even close to who I am! Get to actually know me as a person not a ball of blubber.

If the guy doesn't stop talking, they will typically fall into one of the three categories below:

1. Scam artists: They will sweet talk you and tell you anything to get you to "fall" for them. Once they think they have you hooked, they will go overseas on business typically and something devastating will happen. I have been told they were mugged and the money from payroll was taken, their only daughter is desperately ill and they need money to get her to the hospital, or they need money for a plane ticket to come back to the states. Sorry dear scam artist, I was never hooked enough to fall for it.
2. Ex-cons, gang members, drug addicts, etc. Now, keep in mind that I can believe that someone can turn their life around. In fact, I am 100% for it! What I am not fond of, is they usually want a "mom" or a "sugar mama". Most times, they do not have a job or a car and they want you to pick them up and take them everywhere on your dime. I do not mind paying for a date now and then but I am not a bank nor will I ever be.
3. Married.....need I say more? Being divorced twice due to unfaithful men, I could not even imagine hurting another woman in that way. The pain is tremendous and it is simply wrong! 

Despite the situations above, I still have hope that there is someone out there for me. We just haven't found each other just yet or the circumstances are not optimal. As Snow White once said, "one day my prince will come", or at least I truly hope so. 

A Brief History

This is my first post about my new venture. I am overweight and have been for most of my life due to my own negligence and laziness. However, does this make me undesirable? Unwanted? Gross to men?

I have decided instead of encouraging a life of depression and loneliness, I am going to try dating. Beginning with internet dating sites. After all is this not the new way to find your soul mate?

Let me provide a little bit of background to what has brought me here today. I have been married and divorced twice. The first marriage lasted 14 years and 3 wonderful children. It ended after many years of me being unhappy. The second marriage lasted nearly 7 years and 1 child. He had 2 children from a previous marriage that I have unofficially "adopted" even after the divorce.

My second marriage ending was the hardest as he was my childhood sweetheart and he decided that he did not want to be married to a fat woman any longer. He left me for a thinner woman. That relationship did not last a year. He and I tried to work things out again. After living together for a year and things going well, I was blindsided when he decided that I again was not what he wanted and choose my ex-friend from high school as his new girlfriend.  Yup, she only weighed 100 pounds.

That is a quick rundown of my background. Let's begin the fun of dating, or the lack thereof....